Facebook - The Party Room

Facebook is like one big party room.  If you're close enough to catch the joke, you laugh and make your comments.  If not, someone will catch you up.  Failing that, just don't be offended, drop it and move on - fast! This is my conclusion having been Facebooked for about 5 years now.  My perception tomorrow may surely change.

As I look back, I recall one of my first slaps; a cousin was coming to Antigua, seeing her post I got excited and hit up her page - "Sure can't wait to see you" or some other really excited comment - she deleted it... :( I was miffed.  How was I to know that she was posting in a slant that maybe only a handful of people may get "on the world wide web" and me just posting on "her page" without selecting "her only" - remember now I'm new with the impression of a party room amongst friends and family - would land me on the wrong side of her venom.

Well, after in-boxing to get to the heart of the matter, I made my apologies and a mental note to never do that again.  Get excited about seeing her, sure - telling her on FB - a definite NO! NO!.  The thing was "not everyone" was suppose to know where she was travelling to.

However, it wasn't just her - whole scores of people.  I can be pretty responsive and into cheering others on. So please if you don't want the FB community to know just please don't put it there as I may reply on your wall and not in your inbox.  (Note I still hold the what-if-view that one day your inbox may end up on your wall).  There was that time I commented that a married couple looked so much alike they could really pass for relatives.  Comment Deleted!  Apparently a bit too close to home.  I love them dearly. Some months later I had a call to mediate my brother's faux pas.  Now dude is in the army and not readily accessible.  When I got on to him, he just threw his head back and laughed. I couldn't see him, but I know him.  He complied with the wishes and laughed some more. Party room I tell you! 

Of course, I've had my share.  It seems at times that my life observations and experiences that are shared through an FB post, though not directly speaking of a particular person who caused me a great deal of trauma, was taken to said individual by some apparent FB snoop (that's what they're called right?). So yes, after I was called and cussed out by the chap I had to do a blast reminding people that my life in all it's pain and glory is just that - mine.  After all, that's what you do in a party room right.  You set it straight!  And yes what was said in my post could only get to him through one of the FB peeps cause he's not on my list and couldn't get on it even if he tried unless he create an alias or one of the peeps gave him a look-see through their access.  But heck - nobody got time for that and like brother Bob say "who de cyap fit!"

It's a live and learn type of thing.  The world goes on.  FB's changes keep you on your toes. Platforms are forever being launched and upgraded, so it is with growth.  Many features I've found to be rather useful and happily so when the "what is for two is not for three" rule applies.  But don't come tell me that something is private and then two shakes later I see smaddy else hitting up your page with the same info and you don't press the delete button cause now that's sending an entirely different message altogether.

When it's all said and done we are all created humans, with the same emotions.  Yet don't in any way pass your place to tell me I'm a lesser one in this party room of life.  It is a great place to share information, a great way to share photo albums across the distance but as with anything else, when the minus outweighs the plus it's a room I'd rather not be in any more.  Hence my continued plea for 2014, keep it nice, light and comfy.  Let's not lose or devour each other, keep the monkey in the room.